The three Bell children were remembered with love by a heartbroken and still numb community which gathered around mother Karen Bell and her family.

The funeral for Jack, 8, Maddie , 7, and Bon Bell, 15 months, packed the church with mourners from all over the Bega Valley shire filling the pews long before the 11am service.

As the hour drew near, mourners quietly crowded into the adjoining hall where a broadcast of the service was shown on a large screen.

During the service the heartbreaking images and speakers carried the prayers from the church to the hundreds who had gathered.

Pastor John Thompson of the Seventh Day Adventist Church was assisted by the Salvation Army's Captain Kathy Crombie in delivering the moving and gentle Seventh Day Adventist ceremony.

The children's small white coffins were dwarfed by the flowers surrounding them and nearby were three large portraits of the children in happier times.

Karen Bell lit three candles for the children following prayers.

Karen's brother Tom Bell read a mother's final goodbye to her children.

"Your lives were too short," he said.

"I will hold you in my heart forever. May you Rest In Peace and know my heart lies with each one of you.

"I love you and miss you, goodbye."

A special poem written by a friend of Karen Bell, who had also lost a child, was recited by Tracie Reeve.

Pastor Thompson had messages of love and forgiveness.

"Karen," he said. "You are not guilty.

"How could you have prevented an act like this?"

He said that the community had experienced a flood of emotions and had a right to be angry but that it needed to nurture a spirit where men could relate to their emotions without feeling isolated or weak.

"The Bega Valley shire says no to violence, so let's start making that happen," he said.